Yemi's Wedding Gift to You

Two and a half years ago, my mother passed away and I’ve been struggling to find ways to deal with my loss. Our relationship was atypical. I would describe it as dysfunctional, my mother would describe it as the punishment for something she did in a past life. Note, she didn’t mean that I was a terrible daughter, she meant that our relationship never lived up to an expectation she had for it. And it wasn’t my fault, or hers…

I say all of this to illustrate that even though we have imperfect relationships with the people in our lives, it doesn’t make loosing them any easier. I think of my mother almost everyday. I miss her every single day, thus I find myself talking to her all the time. It makes me feel better and it helps direct the narrative in my head about how I feel about her. It also makes her feel less far away.

My mother and I in 1987

My mother and I in 1987

This year is particularly difficult for me because her first two grandchildren, my daughter and my nephew will be graduating from high school. She would be so incredibly proud of them for all the hard work they’ve put in. This would be a year of great celebration for her. I would be rolling my eyes every time my phone rang, because it would be another call from her asking about the children and what new idea she had for their graduation. Instead, this May, right around the time when graduation fever is peaking in my home, it would be the third anniversary of her passing.

From left to right - me, my nephew, my mother, my daughter and my sister.

From left to right - me, my nephew, my mother, my daughter and my sister.

To help me deal with this particularly difficult anniversary, I would celebrate something I loved about my mother - her generosity. My mother was an incredibly generous woman to everyone around her. I can’t tell you how many people benefitted from her generosity with money, material items, her wisdom. She was and still is remembered fondly by many many people.

I figured what better way to celebrate my mother’s life than to pass on her gift of generosity. Starting this year, I am giving away a day of wedding photography in the month of May. My mother was born in May, was honored every May (on Mother’s day) and she departed from this world in May.

It seemed right that I should do this for her and to continue to spread her generosity to other people for years to come. So if you or someone you know is getting married this May, and would like the gift of wedding photography, please enter! I am so excited about gifting this and I can’t wait to meet with you!